I know I haven't blogged in a while. That doesn't mean things have been good or bad. Its just been the same ole, same ole. Each day brings something different. I have been thinking about this entry for quite a while and I hope it is as meaningful as I anticipate it to be.
I have a wonderful friend, Lindsey, who can always relate to something I am going through. And sadly, it is because she is sick too. Just a different kind of sick. She has colon cancer. When people look at us their first thought is, "you look great. I'm so glad you are feeling good". Unfortunately, that is usually not the case. Sure, we can put on makeup, brush our hair, and put on a cute outfit for the day. But our insides are suffering something horrible. Everyday tasks are hard...and sometimes impossible. Lifting kids is tough when your body is weak and tired. The aisles of the grocery store suddenly become a 5K. Showering and drying hair is a task (which sometimes doesn't get done!) Lindsey isn't just sick on chemo days. She doesn't just need meals and help during treatment times. Illness affects us and our families daily. Other than the physical aspects of illness, we suffer emotionally as well. Sometimes we just get sick of being sick. Some days are better than others, but there are definitely days of "why me" and what will my future even look like? You see what is on the outside in these pictures...smiling faces and loving families...what you don't see is the dozens of scars we both have, a port on Lindsey's chest, and braces on my joints. I am sure you know someone who is sick whether it is cancer or a chronic illness. If you have been blessed with the gift of health, use it to the glory of God to help others! We (and so many more) have the privilege of spreading God's love and word, even if it is through pain and suffering. If we can see God's love through this, you can too! Jesus made the ultimate sacrifice of pain and suffering for us by dying for our sins.
This is Lindsey and her sweet family.
When Lindsey was 17 weeks pregnant with their sweet little Lilla, she was diagnosed with stage III Colon Cancer! She is my age, a talented photographer, and an incredible friend. Right now she has finished 3 of the 4 chemo treatments for this round. In a few weeks, she goes back to MD Anderson for repeat scans and a plan moving forward. She truly has handled cancer with dignity and grace and has touched many lives along the way. In the 22 months since her diagnosis, she has had
2 Colonoscopies (diagnosis and 1 year follow up)
5 Surgeries =
Colon Resection & Temporary Colostomy Bag at 18 weeks pregnant
IV Port Placement in right neck/collar bone
Colostomy Bag Reversal
Liver Resection (Hepatectomy) & Gall Bladder Removal - took 40% of right liver lobe
Liver Tumor Ablation & Lung Accidental Collapse (Pneumothorax)
1 Pregnancy & Birth
24 Chemotherapy Treatments (the first 7 of those while pregnant)
6 Trips in 2014 to Houston, TX to MD Anderson
6 CT Scans
3 MRIs
3 Ultrasounds
4 X Rays
Uncountable # of visits to doctors offices for followups, problems that arise, weekly checkups
Uncountable # of hours in the waiting rooms
Uncountable # of vials of blood and needle sticks
And you thought you had a rough year!
And here I am! With my wonderful husband, David
To someone who doesn't know me, nothing looks wrong from the outside. That is why it is sometimes called an "invisible illness". But every day is a struggle, and it won't go away with a few treatments or surgeries. With my Ehlers-Danlos I deal with my muscles and joints aching, dislocating, or just not cooperating. Sometimes my legs hurt so badly that I can't walk. There are very few days that I am pain-free. If any. Sometimes I am so used to it, that I brush it aside. It affects every muscle and joint in my body...which is a lot! With my Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome, I deal with symptoms daily. I can't control my body temperature so I am always too hot or too cold. My blood pressure doesn't regulate on its own when I sit or stand, which often leads to passing out upon standing. My heart rate continually increases just standing still. I have to take symptoms seriously, because I never know if this is the time it is causing irreversible damage.
- 13 surgeries
- 5 for endometriosis
- 2 for bladder endometriosis
- 2 sinus surgeries because the EDS makes my cartilage collapse
- Gallbladder removed
- Hernia repaired
- 2 hip surgeries to fix the erosion from the EDS
- 5 trips to the Mayo Clinic
- 2 in Jacksonville, FL
- 3 in Rochester, MN
- Countless days in the hospital in Greenville
- 2 Colonoscopies
- 3 Endoscopies
- Hundreds of hours in waiting rooms
- Dozens of trips to the ER
- Splints for almost every joint I have
- Dislocated knees, shoulders, and thumbs more times than I can count
- Hours upon hours of physical therapy
- At least 7 prescription medications every day
- SO many blown veins from IVs (from the EDS)
Much Love,
Riley